It’s time to get real baby sleep advice that you can feel good about, backed by science while allowing you to follow your instincts.
Maybe you’re tired and confused and all you want is to feel more confident about your baby’s sleep.
Maybe you’re overwhelmed with all the conflicting information online about baby sleep when all you want is to feel at peace and love this season of parenthood.
Maybe you’re done with second guessing every aspect of sleep and ready for a clear path to better sleep without ignoring your instincts.
If this sounds like you, the Flourishing Sleep Membership is for you!
Get the complete Raised to Flourish framework for better sleep without sleep training.
The ultimate sleep membership is complete with on-demand video workshops, quick reference sheets, guides, and best practices to make real sleep changes for better rest, and ongoing support from a sleep specialist, ME!
Plus have access to all this practical information from your phone anywhere you go!
TOTAL VALUE $935
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My best selling mini-course to make the transition from bedsharing or contact napping to solo sleep. All the best strategies you need to make the transition successful and responsive to both your need for a change and your little one's attachment and emotional needs
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Transform your perspective of infant sleep and learn how to support your child from a place of calm and well-being, without the emotional overwhelm and burn out.
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A gentle, responsive guide to peaceful naptimes with your little one. All the foundational knowledge you need to set your little one up for optimal sleep, and solutions to common naptime challenges.
I believe babies need nurturing care AND having your needs met shouldn’t come at the expense of meeting your baby’s needs. The two shouldn’t be mutually exclusive!
My job is to support your instincts and help you better understand your child’s cues and needs. I work with families to identify sleep solutions through responsive parenting practices and connected relationships — without resorting to traditional separation-based sleep training techniques.
If you're here, you are not looking for a quick fix, but desire to deepen your connection with your child, improve any challenges surrounding sleep, all being responsive to your child’s needs. Gently encouraging a baby to sleep better will take a different amount of time for every baby. Unlike separation-based sleep training methods, I can’t promise you when it will get better. But I can promise you that it will get better. With these responsive, science-based strategies, you’ll get more rest soon, and when you do, you’ll be confident that you stayed true to your values and followed your instincts. These holistic, attachment-based methods set you up for real, lasting, better sleep. You’ll build a foundation of connection & attachment that will pay off countless times throughout your baby’s life.
All strategies and plans are founded in responsive, attachment-focused, methods. At no point will I ever encourage or ask you to do anything that you are not comfortable with. At no point will your little one be left to cry on their own, or you will be told in what ways you are allowed to respond to them. Your little one is allowed to have big feelings, especially if changes are being made that they don’t like, for example, if you are currently rocking for an hour straight to get your little one to sleep and you need to make a change, your little one might be upset and displeased. But the difference here is that you are still providing them with the support, comfort and coregulation that need.
Remember, you are the expert on your baby. My job is to guide you, offer suggestions and strategies, shine a light on any areas of concern, recommend solutions based on my experience, encourage emotional connections, build stronger relationships, and support you along the way. You will never, ever be told to do something that doesn't feel right for you or your baby.
My approach revolves around a holistic attachment-focused approach, a truly responsive perspective of sleep. When working with little one's it is so important that we acknowledge and value that each child is unique, with different temperaments and needs, and there are no guarantees. Traditional sleep trainers will make promises such as your child will sleep x amount of hours after x amount of days because they are using separation and a behaviourist approach to modify the child's behaviour and how they signal to their caregiver- not their sleep. Making real changes to sleep includes developmentally appropriate expectations, time and an understanding of your unique child.
Yes! Every two weeks there is a community support call. And sometimes you might have questions that can't wait; you can always ask questions on the community board and I'll answer you there!
Today! Now! As soon as you enroll you will have access to all of the on-demand content, community space, guides and bonuses!
I believe so much in this membership that if you’re not satisfied with The Flourishing Sleep Membership after 14 days of joining I’m going to refund you, no questions asked.
All of the content is designed with children newborn - 18 months in mind.
No, I do not use sleep training in my approach to sleep.
Sleep training takes a behaviour-based approach to sleep, changing how a baby communicates their needs to their caregiver instead of changing sleep itself. This includes full extinction, “cry it out,” timed or incremental soothing, and “parent present” methods like the chair method or pick up/put down.
When I support families to better sleep through this membership, it doesn't include any methods that limit how a parent responds to their child’s cries, either in increments or by having the caregiver respond in only specific ways.
Instead, we take a completely holistic perspective of sleep, assessing all aspects that may impact your child’s sleep challenges to address the root cause and meet your goals.
•Routines and rhythms
•Day and nighttime sleep balance
•Feeding and nutrition
•Underlying medical concerns
•Family dynamics and relationships
Along with developmentally appropriate expectations and strategies to support your well-being as a parent. I support you to find the root cause and optimize sleep through responsive parenting and sleep science, with the ultimate goal of you feeling empowered and confident in supporting your baby to their best sleep.
I place immense value in you trusting your instincts and tuning into your unique child, meeting their needs, resulting in sleep solutions that you can feel good about. And in this way, you will have real, lasting results, not only with sleep but in your parenting journey as a whole.
Instead of merely focusing on sleep behaviour, I take a truly holistic perspective of sleep and assess all factors influencing sleep to support your family’s rest.
All strategies and plans are founded in responsive, attachment-focused methods, designed to get to the root of sleep challenges and give you the tools you need to make changes that align with your child and values.
Remember, you are the expert on your baby. My job is to guide you, offer suggestions and strategies, shine a light on any areas of concern, recommend solutions based on my experience, encourage emotional connections, build stronger relationships, and support you along the way.
My approach is designed with developmentally appropriate expectations and the latest research in neuroscience, brain development and attachment. There are no generic or arbitrary rules or guidelines, but instead is tailored to your unique family.
The concept that babies can learn how to “self-soothe” by being left to cry or when separated from their caregiver is a complete myth. Babies are neurologically incapable of self-soothing or calming themselves from a state of stress without the support of a caregiver.
True self-soothing is an ability that babies learn through first BEING soothed.
That is just how brain development works.
The foundation of this ability is the baby’s experiences of their caregiver’s timely, sensitive, consistent and appropriate responses to their distress (also the basis for a secure attachment). They learn to self-soothe when they learn to trust that you are there to help them whenever they need you and that you can read their cues and understand their communication.
We bring our calm to meet our children when they are stressed or upset. By meeting our children with calm, soothing, responsive care, we support their nervous system to calm. We aid them in this process, building connections in their brain so they can regulate themselves effectively in the future. It happens through the developmental process, not as a skill they can be taught.
Children learn how to regulate their emotions by borrowing the mature adult brain and being provided coregulation and support. From this foundation of first BEING soothed and having regulation modelled to them, children can learn how to do it themselves when their brain develops the capability to do so. After 1000s of experiences of being soothed, their brain slowly gains these skills.
When a baby is in a state of stress, if they call for you, they need you to respond, and by having this understanding, we can do so confidently, knowing that we are setting our children up for their best chance at effective future regulation.
It is a reality that most babies (and even toddlers!) need some level of parental support to fall asleep. However, suppose there are certain aspects around soothing strategies that aren’t sustainable for you. In that case, I absolutely encourage you to make changes around those aspects while still finding a way to support your child’s need for your presence to feel calm and safe as they enter sleep.
For example, it takes a long time for your child to fall asleep, or the support they prefer is making you uncomfortable or causing pain (for example, bouncing on a yoga ball hurts your back). You can change elements that no longer serve your family while meeting their need for your support in ways that work for you both.
When we support our children’s sleep, we build lifelong sleep health by:
•Lending our adult brain, so infants enter sleep in a rest and digest parasympathetic state of their nervous system
•Create an association between sleep and a feeling of safety and comfort
•Facilitate brain waves in sleep that are more restorative
•Influence less night waking
•Help them go to sleep faster
•Influence their childhood, adolescent and adult sleep to be more consolidated, better quality, reduced insomnia
Depending on your baby’s temperament, some babies need more support to fall asleep while others prefer more space. If your baby communicates that they need your support, that’s simultaneously normal, expected AND challenging.
Due to their immature nervous system, babies often need the soothing presence of an adult, and this isn’t something we can necessarily change without consequence. Our presence makes all the difference in their developing brain, supporting their lifelong mental wellness with nurturing care and support. Nurture is what builds the brain towards resilience and builds sleep health.
Unlike traditional sleep training, I will never make any wild claims like your baby will sleep 12 hours without calling for you in 12 days or anything else. (many of these claims are for marketing purposes and not reality anyway!)
Your baby is unique, and maintaining developmentally appropriate expectations while working on improving sleep is crucial – when children have needs to be met, they need to be able to trust us to respond and meet those needs. Babies and toddlers are whole humans with complex needs, much of which are out of our complete control. Making guarantees about another human merely sets parents up for unrealistic expectations.
I do guarantee that you will walk away feeling confident about working towards your sleep goals in a way that aligns with your values, so you will be able to stress less and get the rest you need.
TOTAL VALUE $935
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