I work with families who have children from newborn to age 4. 

Change takes time, and it depends on your child. I never guarantee a quick fix. Progress isn’t only measured in hours of sleep. It often shows up as shorter bedtimes, fewer battles, easier resettling, longer stretches, and you feeling more confident about what to do next.

Sometimes sleep improves quickly, within a week or two. Bigger changes, like night weaning, changing how or where your child falls asleep, or bringing in a new caregiver, can take more time. It depends on your child and their big picture, but it does get better. Every plan is designed to guide you through to your goals, and follow-up support is available for ongoing guidance and troubleshooting along the way.

Every family has unique goals and challenges, so if you don’t see your specific challenge here, that doesn’t mean I can’t help!  If you have questions my DMs (@raisedtoflourish) or email inbox (hava@raisedtoflourish.com) are always open. 

I can support your family with,

✔ Education about normal infant and toddler sleep and realistic expectations
✔ Difficulty falling asleep and staying asleep
✔ Extended night wakings
✔ Feeling overwhelmed with sleep
✔ Parental exhaustion
✔ Frequent night waking
✔ Fighting sleep
✔ Challenging naps  
✔ Nap transitions
✔ Split nights (awake for extended periods in the middle of the night)
✔ False starts (wakes 45 minutes after bedtime or multiple times in the first 2-4 hours of the night)
✔ Early morning rises (waking for the day before 6 AM or earlier than you’d like)
✔ Changing sleep associations/soothing strategies
✔ Sleep space transitions (moving to their own room, or from bedsharing/contact napping to solo sleep)
✔ Childcare transitions
✔ Bedtime battles
✔ Involving your partner or support person in sleep routines
✔ Night weaning after 12 months

No. Your child will never be left to cry alone, and you’ll never be asked to delay or limit how you respond. If there are tears during a change, your child feels them in your arms, with you close and calm.

Only if that’s your goal. We build on what’s already working for your family. If you do want to make a change, like moving to solo naps or night weaning, we’ll do it gradually and in a way that respects your child’s needs and your values.

I’ll absolutely help you work toward better nights, with realistic expectations along the way.

Night wakes for food and comfort are normal and expected throughout the entire first year and beyond. Some little ones are wired to wake more frequently and seek out their caregiver, and that isn’t necessarily something we can, or should try to, stop.  

Realistically, the baseline for many little ones is waking anywhere from 0-3 or 4 times a night. Some will average lower and others will wake more often, and this usually decreases throughout their second year.  

We can do everything possible to set your child up for their best sleep. But sleep is naturally variable and affected by so many things outside of our control. So our work together centres on using sleep science to best support your child’s sleep, working with who they are as little people and their temperament, and supporting your own wellbeing, completely apart from how your little one sleeps, to maximize your rest. That might look like sharing night duty with a partner, or finding ways to protect your own sleep.  

If your little one is waking very frequently, or the wakes are very long and hard to resettle, that usually means there’s a lot of room for us to improve things. Better nights might look like fewer wakes, shorter wakes, easier resettling, a longer first stretch of sleep, or a later morning wake. For so many families, once wakes are shorter and easier, nights feel far more manageable, even with a wake or two.  

But I will never guarantee sleeping through the night, especially for little ones in their first year.

All calls are virtual, so I can work with families wherever they are. I’m in Central Time (CST), and I can usually accommodate morning, afternoon or early evening call times.

Yes, absolutely, and I encourage it! When everyone who supports your child’s sleep hears the plan together, it’s so much easier to stay on the same page.

No, I don’t use sleep training in my approach.  Sleep training is a behaviour-based approach. It changes how a child communicates their needs to their caregiver, instead of changing sleep itself. This includes full extinction (“cry it out”), timed or incremental soothing, and “parent present” methods like the chair method or pick up put down.

Nothing in my 1:1 support limits how you respond to your child’s cries, whether that’s in timed increments or by only responding in certain ways.

Instead, we take a holistic look at everything that may be affecting your child’s sleep, so we can address the root cause and work toward your goals.

That includes:  
✔ Sleep environment
✔ Routines and rhythms
✔ Day and night sleep balance
✔ Feeding and nutrition
✔ Underlying medical concerns
✔ Sleep science
✔ Emotional wellbeing
✔ Family dynamics and relationships
✔ And more!  

We pair all of that with developmentally appropriate expectations and strategies to support your wellbeing as a parent. The goal is for you to feel empowered and confident supporting your child to their best sleep, with solutions you can feel good about.

Most babies (and even toddlers!) need some level of support to fall asleep, and that’s normal and expected. For young babies, and even many toddlers, falling asleep with zero support often isn’t a realistic expectation. Depending on their temperament, some children need more support and some prefer more space. Your child doesn’t have to fall asleep without you in order to sleep well. Feeding, rocking, bouncing, holding or cuddling your child to sleep are all normal, healthy ways to support them.

When we support our children to sleep, we help them:

✔ Enter sleep in a calm, rest and digest state, by lending them our adult nervous system
✔ Connect sleep with feelings of safety and comfort
✔ Build a healthy foundation for sleep as they grow

If parts of how you’re supporting sleep aren’t sustainable for you anymore, we can change them. Maybe it’s taking a really long time for your child to fall asleep, or bouncing on a yoga ball is hurting your back. We can shift the parts that no longer work for your family, like moving from bouncing to holding or from feeding to cuddling to sleep, while still meeting your child’s need for your presence to feel calm and safe.

If falling asleep more independently is a future goal, I’ll absolutely give you the tools and strategies to work toward it. That work needs to be aligned with who your child is, where they are developmentally, and what they need to feel calm and safe. It’s a gradual process, and not a linear one. There may be steps forward, steps back, and pauses along the way, and that’s all part of it.

Because of this, if fully independent sleep is your primary goal right now, I don’t recommend working with me. My focus is on supporting your child’s calm and finding a balance that works for your whole family, with independence growing over time as your child is ready.

In short, I believe there’s a better way to improve sleep for the whole family. It honours your child’s emotional and physical needs and supports their attachment to you.  Sleep is a biological function, so it can’t be taught like a skill. Sleep training methods don’t teach a child to sleep, connect sleep cycles or self soothe. What they change is how a child communicates with their caregivers when they wake.

 Sleep is a vulnerable state for all of us, and even more so for our children. It’s so important that they go to sleep from a place of calm and connection with you. Independence grows out of connection and attachment, while sleep training relies on separation and limiting your response to change sleep behaviour.  Sleep training also goes against your instincts. We’re biologically wired to feel activated when our little ones cry for us, and they depend on us for calm, safety and security.

Babies are designed to wake at night and communicate their needs, and it matters that they can trust us to respond. Even while we’re making changes, supporting their emotions is a big part of their emotional and psychological development.  I believe children need responsive, nurturing care both day and night, and that there’s a way to maximize your rest while honouring your child’s needs. That means improving sleep in a way that respects biological norms, keeps expectations realistic, and addresses the root of sleep disruptions.

Instead of focusing only on sleep behaviour, I take a holistic look at everything influencing your child’s sleep. Every strategy is rooted in responsive, attachment-focused care. It’s designed to get to the root of sleep challenges and give you the tools to make changes that fit your child and your values.

You are the expert on your child. My job is to guide you, offer suggestions and strategies, shine a light on any areas of concern, recommend solutions based on my experience, and support you along the way.  

My approach is built on developmentally appropriate expectations and current research in neuroscience, brain development and attachment. There are no generic or arbitrary rules. Everything is tailored to your family.

The assessment gives me a complete picture of everything influencing your child’s sleep, so I can offer suggestions and strategies that fit your family and support your goals.

I assess:
✔   Family lifestyle
✔   Temperament
✔   Your wellbeing
✔   Birth experience
✔   Sleep environment
✔   Nutrition and feeding, including one day of feeding logs  
✔   Screening for underlying medical conditions that may be impacting sleep quality
✔   Routines
✔   Soothing strategies
✔   Daytime stimulation
✔   3-day sleep log so I can understand current sleep rhythms and your child’s unique sleep needs. 

Yes, completely custom to your goals and your family. Your plan is delivered after our first call, so we can talk through what will work best for your family before anything is written down. You won’t get a generic 10 step program or a strict plan you have to stick to. Your plan is a clear resource to guide you forward.

It reflects everything we discuss on the call, laid out so it’s easy to put into practice at your own pace. I offer suggestions, and you decide what’s the right fit for your family and child. You know your child best, and there’s no single path to better sleep.

Babies aren’t developmentally able to calm themselves from a state of stress without a caregiver’s support. So the idea that they learn to “self soothe” by being left to cry or separated from you is a myth. Babies learn to self soothe by first BEING soothed.

That ability is built on your child’s experience of you responding to their distress in a timely, sensitive and consistent way, which is also the foundation of a secure attachment. They learn it as they come to trust that you’re there whenever they need you, and that you understand their cues.  

When we meet our children’s stress with calm, responsive care, we help their nervous system settle. That builds the connections in their brain that support regulation in the future. Children learn to regulate by borrowing our calm, mature adult brain through coregulation. After thousands of experiences of being soothed, their brain slowly develops the ability to do it themselves. This happens through development and can’t be taught as a skill.  

So when your child calls for you, you can respond with confidence, knowing you’re setting them up for their best chance at healthy regulation in the future.

I’ll never promise that your child will sleep 12 hours without calling for you in 12 days, or make any claim like that. (So many of those promises are made for marketing, not reality!)

 Your child is unique, and babies and toddlers are whole humans with complex needs, many of which are outside our control. Keeping expectations developmentally appropriate is so important, because when your child has a need, they need to be able to trust you to respond. Guarantees about another human only set parents up for unrealistic expectations.  

What I do guarantee is that you’ll walk away feeling confident about working toward your sleep goals in a way that aligns with your values, so you can stress less and get the rest you need.

Part of my process is screening for red flags. If something needs a closer look, I’ll tell you and refer you to the right professional, such as your doctor, an IBCLC, a bodyworker, an allergist or an ENT.

They probably will, because your child is growing! Follow-up calls are there to troubleshoot and adjust your plan, and your resource library access never expires.

1:1 coaching is for families who want a fully personalized plan built from the start and a more hands-on experience. The Sleep Membership is a great fit if you’re comfortable with a more DIY approach and want ongoing weekday access to me for questions, at a lower monthly cost.